Listen to the audio blog version of this: Do you ever feel not really seen, heard, or valued in your relationship? If so it could be that you have what I call "squashed voice syndrome" (I did and recovered, but still occasionally relapse!). It's so common, especially for the sensitive among us. "Squashed Voice Syndrome" ( okay, I made that up) is when you don't really deep down know what you want or need, when you override your true "inner knowing". Which leads to all sorts o
I hope there haven't been any hurt feelings this holiday season for you. It can be a stressful time for some of us (like me) and therefore easier for harsh words to slip and emotions to be tender. I want to send you off into the new year with a final word about hurt feelings (see the first two videos in this mini series here). Because they are actually an opportunity for deepening intimacy and feeling more loved and valued--if you respond well. Here is how: Here are all the t
Has anyone ever said something like this to you, “You are too sensitive!” Or “Geez,aren’t you the touchy one...”? Maybe it's true...sometimes you just can't help taking things other people say pretty seriously. Especially the hurtful comments. (And especially when its your significant other who is the perpetrator). Or maybe its not even what they said, but how they said it—with a curt, sharp, or dismissive tone. Equally painful is when something you say or do is met with ston
Over the coming weeks and months I will be doing a video series on “Self-Responsibility”. I believe that being able to take responsibility for your experience in your life is the number one key to having a healthy, loving, and fun relationship with your partner. This is a big topic. So I thought we would explore different aspects of it in bite-sized pieces via video, and perhaps written words and stories, too, as part of the biweekly Connection Compass. Enjoy this video (and
I stumbled across the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) years ago in college. Though much of the description sounded like me, I blew it off as just another personality type, like Meyers Briggs, or the Enneagram, or astrological signs (which are fun, sometimes insightful, but I’m not going to bet my life on them). So I didn’t spend much time looking further into the term. I only wish I had, as it may have saved me much heartache! Fast forward to after my first marriage ended.