My husband and I waited years, and had many life experiences together before getting married. In true HSP introvert style, we finally did it last week, in a field, nearly alone but for a few family members and the beautiful mountains and trees (and cows) around us. Did we wait years because we didn’t believe in marriage or each other? Absolutely not. We are so very thrilled to be married! In fact, we both feel it is a magic sacred covenant, especially when approached with a f
If you find you get easily rattled, you feel things intensely, or have always felt more sensitive than other people, you may feel kind of bad about it on some level. These qualities are not exactly praised in our society, so it's no surprise if you sometimes wonder if something's a little wrong with you... Plus, you may notice how these qualities can bring some challenges to your relationships. But what if I told you those very qualities are actually some of what's really rig
I want you to meet "Mara", who took serious dedicated action and experienced amazing shifts in her marriage using the techniques and skills I taught her. She now feels tons of love between her and her husband, feels totally cherished, valued, and heard, and like they are really in this life as true allies; she even inspired her husband (without any nagging or mommy-energy) to want to make major healthy changes in himself, so they could be even happier as individuals and as a
Listen to the audio blog version of this: Do you ever feel not really seen, heard, or valued in your relationship? If so it could be that you have what I call "squashed voice syndrome" (I did and recovered, but still occasionally relapse!). It's so common, especially for the sensitive among us. "Squashed Voice Syndrome" ( okay, I made that up) is when you don't really deep down know what you want or need, when you override your true "inner knowing". Which leads to all sorts o
I got upset last night. It still happens. Nothing I've learned stops me from feeling. I wouldn't want that. I want to be "only human". "Only humans" are very lovable, much of the time. What I don't want is to linger in that upset space for so long that it starts to make me behave in ways I don't like. Like getting critical with my man for the way he interacts with the boys (did that). Or snapping at the kids at the dinner table (that, too). I want to be more in charge of how
I stumbled across the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) years ago in college. Though much of the description sounded like me, I blew it off as just another personality type, like Meyers Briggs, or the Enneagram, or astrological signs (which are fun, sometimes insightful, but I’m not going to bet my life on them). So I didn’t spend much time looking further into the term. I only wish I had, as it may have saved me much heartache! Fast forward to after my first marriage ended.