Calm Your Triggers
For More Peace With Your Partner
YOU'RE A CONSIDERATE CARING PERSON, AND ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU'D BE A VERY LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE PARTNER. BUT NOW, LIVING IN THIS RELATIONSHIP DAY TO DAY, YOU'RE DOUBTING YOURSELF. YOU GET UPSET AT THE DROP OF THE HAT.
Something is off. . .
You often feel a vague sense of irritation at him, or outright anger. You criticize him or complain about things he does, or clam up and shut down. When he says something slightly critical or in a cold tone—watch out. You snap at him, or slam the door as you run off to hide. Or you break down in tears right then and there.
If Only. . .
Sometimes you’re sure if you could just get your partner to act a little differently, it would fix everything. But when you try it just doesn’t seem to change him. And anyway, you know deep down it’s not just him. It’s just as much you.
You want to understand how to get out of this pattern, so that things are more peaceful and loving between you two. You want to feel good about yourself and act like the loving woman you know you really are deep down. But you have no idea how to improve things or what the first step should be.
~ want him to make you feel good about yourself, and when he doesn’t often enough, you withdraw, start pointing out his wrong-doings, or complain that he doesn’t pay attention to you.
~ are annoyed by his overly loud voice when he is talking intensely about something, the way he treats the kids when they do something they shouldn’t, or the way he eats. . .
~have trouble being kind when he’s in a bad mood, or stressed out.
~think there might be something wrong with you and you'll never be able to act like the loving person you always thought you were.
~are often upset about this. You are distracted at work. Your stress and heavy feelings show up in your interactions with your kids, and other family members, too.
You are ready to get to the bottom of this and change it -- now --before it’s too late and your relationship is a lost cause. But you feel overwhelmed and stuck.
THERE IS A SOURCE TO ALL THESE ICKY FEELINGS AND BEHAVIORS.
IN CALM YOUR TRIGGERS YOU'LL GET TO THE BOTTOM OF IT
SO YOU CAN:
~Stop being so upset and bothered by things he does all the time.
~Feel more even-keeled and begin to take things less personally, even when your partner is in bad mood or doesn’t act how you wish he would.
~Stop feeling so bad about things you do and say and start to feel good about yourself and how you interact with your partner.
~Enjoy the return of his affection, attention, and a growing sense of peace between you.
~Start to feel the love again between you that you’ve always known is somewhere there under the surface.
What’s Included In The Package?
~What Triggers You Assessment: Before we hop on the phone, in this pre-work assessment, you’ll take a thorough look at your top triggers for your bad feelings and strong reactions. You’ll share what they look like and when they tend to happen (lay it all out, no judgment here!). This will give you deeper insight into your patterns and set you up for our coaching session. It will help me understand what’s really going on for you and help us make the most of our time together.
~The Truth Behind Your Triggers Session: A 75 minute private coaching session to develop understanding and insight into the source of your triggers, along with specific steps to ease them so you can be more calm and stable and not take every little issue that comes up in your relationship so seriously. You’ll get clear solutions to work past those issues that you can change, and great tools to manage, accept, and minimize the impact of the things you cannot. You’ll come away with confidence that you can be authentically loving and loved in your relationship, and more secure in knowing that things will improve and last.
~Personalized Action Plan: Within 48 hours of our call, you’ll receive your personalized detailed plan of action, along with a packet of support materials just for you. This will help you continue making progress (because change doesn’t happen overnight) on the skills that calm your strong reactions, help you feel deep down good about yourself, and maintain authentic peace between you and your partner, so you can show up like you want to in your relationship (and feel more loved in return).
~Follow-Up-To-Feel-Free-Of-It: Old habits die hard, and a little accountability goes a long way when it comes to change that lasts! In this 30-minute follow-up call (2-3 weeks after our initial call) we’ll talk through how you are feeling and how you did on implementing your action steps. We’ll also discuss anything that got in your way and how to keep moving forward to feel better about yourself. . .Since that’s the only way to feel truly loved (and loving).
As you begin, with my support, to understand why this problem keeps happening and what’s at the source of it, you’ll start to climb out of it. You’ll stop being upset all the time. You’ll stop thinking something is wrong with you. Instead you’ll make room for your loving self to emerge from her hiding place.
YOU'LL BE ON THE PATH TO HAVING WHAT YOU REALLY WANT: TO FEEL LOVED, ACCEPTED, AND ACKNOWLEDGED AND TO EASILY DO THE SAME FOR YOUR PARTNER IN RETURN.
Ready to finally calm your triggers so you can have the peaceful relationship you crave? Join Unleash Your Love and you get full access to Calm Your Triggers--FREE!