All too often I see capable smart women sitting in unhappy relationships thinking they should be able to fix it on their own. Or waiting for their partner to change, or even simply settling for unhappiness, thinking there's nothing to be done to improve things. It breaks my heart.
They end up staying in this very unhappy place for years….and it takes a real toll on their spirit, costing them tremendously on so many levels.
If this is you in some way, please hear me: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO STAY UNHAPPY IN LOVE. Your birthright is to have all the tenderness and joy that love offers. And you can absolutely have that, no matter how hard things feel right now. I'm so serious about this.
There's so much out there to help you find your way back to a loving relationship with your partner. Whether you do the work to get there all on your own, or with support, please do it. You are worth every bit of energy that goes into it.
I created this powerful video to help you understand you can change things, and to share the most efficient, easiest, most fun (yes!!) way to do so. I seriously recommend watching (or listening) through until the end. It might just majorly change your life for the better.
If you prefer to listen here's an audio version of this video (or you can read a transcribed summary further below):
If you’re ready for some loving help quickly and thoroughly transforming your relationship into the peaceful, loving, intimate one you really want, schedule a complimentary chat with me.
Want to hear about the coaching experience from some of my clients own mouths? Go ahead and read their stories.
This is the article I mentioned in the video: What Your Painful Relationship Really Costs You
Here's a super quick recap of the top 3 reasons coaching is so powerful to get you where you want to go quickly and effectively.
Coaching = Speed. Helps you focus on the exact right areas that YOU personally need to hone in on for the most quick, effective, lasting change in your relationship and life.
Coaching = Accountability and motivation.
Coaching = Ease, clarity, support, and love and belief in you when it's hard to believe in yourself. And someone to support you all the way to your dream. In my experience, there’s no info, no book, no article, that can replace this loving support of another human being who knows how to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
If that sounds as amazing to you as I know it is, what are you waiting for? Let's hop on the phone together. I'll help you determine your best way forward in order to have the loving relationship you really want with your partner, and whether I'm the one to help you get there.
Here's a written summary of the video if you prefer to read:
I know I used to think I could make the big transformations I really wanted in my life on my own— like becoming the owner of a thriving business, or having the relationship I'd always dreamed of. I spent YEARS trying, and making minor progress. But it wasn’t until I found coaching that those dream finally became my reality.
You CAN do the work of healing your relationship on your own, without hiring a coach or mentor or therapist. I've offered you tons of resources to do so on this blog. There are thousands of great books out there, too. You’ll find good info all over the place. You’re a smart cookie with a good brain on your shoulders and likely some good life wisdom, too.
But WHY would you want to wait or just chip away at putting an end to the suffering you are experiencing in your relationship?
When I look back at that time in my life of being so unhappy in love, I would not want to stay there for a minute longer. I would want to get out of that unhappiness ASAP. If I had known how different it could be— and how QUICKlY I could change it— I wouldn't hesitate to get help right away.
My mission is to help you have the love that is your birthright.
Here are 3 reasons hiring a coach is so powerful and worth every penny:
1) Coaching = Speed. It saves time and is the most efficient route to creating what you want. There is info all over the internet about relationships, and about being a sensitive empowered woman living in this crazy time.
This of course is part of the problem… there is so much info out there that it gets really overwhelming….especially if you are like me and get overwhelmed easily. It leads to paralysis--and not doing anything, and maybe even making things worse (you know my stance on overwhelm!).
Coaching is laser-focused and cuts through any time-wasting and hemming and hawing.
During my very first experience with coaching , I released everything that was holding me back from having the relationship I'd always wanted. I was AWED by how quickly my now husband came into my life.
And how incredibly easy it has been to deepen our love, face the challenges that inevitably come up in intimate relationships and feel closer and closer ( instead of more disconnected) over the years. And let me tell you— I had so many barriers and habituated problematic patterns I wasn’t sure I'd ever be able to change! Coaching helped me overcome these so quickly.
Working with a coach will make a huge difference in the speed by which you’ll change things.
2) Accountability—someone to hold you accountable.
If you read a book, it may take months and you may never actually do the exercises or act on what's taught. Transforming our relationship is big work, and it takes a lot more than information to do it. It takes conscious action.
Follow through can be hard. Some of us need some accountability, some hand holding, someone to keep us focused and motivated in order to take those sometimes scary, sometimes hard actions. A coach lovingly helps you maintain forward momentum, through any challenges, resistance, discouragement, or discomfort that comes up.
It’s a partnership and it feels like one!
3) Makes it feel so much easier:
It gives clarity on how to get from where you are to where you wan to be.
There are many routes to the same destination. This makes it confusing…You can spend weeks, months, years sorting through info, patching things together, and feeling confused…
OR You can find everything you need right away under one roof. When you work with me I help you focus on the exact right areas that YOU personally need to hone in on for the most effective lasting change.
Having this road map and all the information you need under one roof will make things feel so much easier and straightforward.
I work with a business coach now because I am completely sold on coaching as a means to the quickest clearest route to the best result possible. I am done wasting time trying to figure it out on my own. Life is complex enough!
I want it to be as EASY as Possible!
Having a coach gives such a sense of support, a sense of lightness, someone who believes in you, someone who has done and still does the work-- and knows the way.
It feels amazing to have someone fully supporting me, who has my back, who helps me feel at ease, soothed, supported, loved, and show me my value over and over—even when I temporarily forget how wonderful I am.
That’s what a good coach does for you. Its what Ido for my clients and I will do for you.
Instead of this work feeling heavy, you will find it can feel light and fun. Every session I coach we end up laughing together! My clients feel less serious and upset, more light and inspired and hopeful…and of course joy and lightness this grows as they see the amazing results in their relationship.
It’s so much easer and more enjoyable to have someone who has your back.
Quick summary:
Coaching = Speed. Helps you focus on the exact right areas that YOU personally need to hone in on for the most quick, effective, lasting change in your relationship and life.
Coaching = Accountability and motivation.
Coaching = Ease, clarity, support, and love and belief in you when it's hard to believe in yourself. And someone to support you all the way to your dream. In my experience, there’s no info, no book, no article, that can replace this loving support of another human being who knows how to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
So, you don’t NEED to hire me…. But-- if you’re ready for some loving help to quickly and thoroughly transform your relationship into one that you feel fulfilled and supported by and in love with, let's talk.
I’d love to support you through that process. Get started by scheduling a complimentary chat with me.