The days of hurting in your marriage because of your sensitivity are over. It’s time to transform your marriage into one you love–full of unrestricted love, understanding, security, lightness and ally-ship.
It's time to feel like the treasure that you are.
SINCE YOU'RE HERE, MY HUNCH IS...
You’re a sensitive woman, and always have been, with a big heart and lots of depth….trouble is, the “worst” parts of your sensitivity seem to get magnified in your committed relationship.
You feel upset (annoyed, resentful, hurt, discouraged, etc) more often than you think you ought to in a good marriage.
You dwell on the things that are not going well between you, take things personally, and your heavy feelings after a conflict linger sometimes for days (or weeks!)…even though your husband mostly seems to get over any issues between you pretty quickly.
You spend more time than you’d like analyzing –even overanalyzing– the miscommunications between you, and hate that the same old conflicts keep repeating themselves with no real resolution.
You feel disenchanted, disappointed in your marriage, like some joy, aliveness, connection and playfulness has become inaccessible–and you long for it to come back alive…
Sometimes it's hard to trust that he really loves you. You find yourself resenting him for not being more attentive, not initiating intimate conversations more, or knowing how to support you really well emotionally. (Because, even though you hate to admit it, a little part of you relies on him to help you feel good about yourself.)
You complain about these things to him, or just withdraw and give a cold shoulder.
Of course, then he gets defensive or tells you he feels he can’t do much right in your eyes, or has to walk on eggshells around you.
Deep down you also feel disappointed in yourself ... you know you're holding back your love, not being the loving person you know you really are. You feel guilty about some of the ways you behave: like when you’re critical of him, or when you act touchy or insinuate that he's not a good husband –after all, he’s the person you most want to love in the world.
When he’s unhappy, or distant with you, you sometimes think it’s your fault, thinking “If i’d only said that differently, paid more attention to him, was somehow BETTER, THEN he’d be happier, more loving .”
You compare yourself and your husband to other people who seem happy in their marriage, and in your estimation you both fall short.
There's been a growing distance between you, and at moments it breaks your heart and makes you fear for your future… That things might always be this way… or your marriage might even fall apart.
You know some of this is you… you think you're probably too sensitive like you've been told so many times before…too touchy, too emotional…
But you notice lots of little things your husband's doing wrong or not well enough, too: he doesn’t talk to the kids in the kind way you do, he’s aloof or grumpy with you when he’s stressed, he doesn’t do enough to make you feel precious to him…
AND YET, HERE'S SOMETHING ELSE I KNOW ABOUT YOU:
You want to make things work. You have a feeling there’s a whole lot more love available between the two of you than you're experiencing right now. And you’re tired of feeling like something–in you or him or both of you– is blocking you from having it.
You want to feel the aliveness and love of those earlier days…but with a deep sense of security, of being in-this-together for the long haul, and the lightness in your heart that brings.
I GET IT. AND YOU’RE SO NOT ALONE.
HERE'S THE BRIGHT SPOT:
You’ve reached a point where you know that continuing to do what you’ve been doing for a while now is not going to give you the marriage you want. It's not going to bring you the loving sensitivity, connection and sense of supportive ally-ship with your significant other you know is possible in a marriage.
You’re ready to do something different, something that really works to make that happen, for yourself, and your loved ones.
You've already read a few –or many!–relationship books, been listening to podcasts, tried communicating better, maybe even been in therapy or couples counseling, or done some trauma healing.
This has all been useful--and it’s gotten you ready to make the change once and for all, (which is such a wonderful place to be, and I hope you’re proud of coming this far!)
But...truth is, all that work hasn't gotten you feeling bone-deep safe, secure, super loved and loving in your marriage. It hasn’t helped you stop feeling upset a lot, unimportant, like you need to get him to show up differently for you. It hasn’t given you an unshakable sense of being treasured in your marriage.
That's because something KEY is missing:
Your own understanding of YOURSELF.
You haven't realized your own emotional power and how to access it.
You haven't realized how huge of an influence you, as a highly sensitive woman, have over the culture in your marriage and the quality of connection and love within it.
You haven't come to know yourself as The TREASURE you are.
…and so you cannot access the deep love available to you for your partner in a sustained way, either.
Not YET, anyway!
But none of this is your fault!
In fact, you’ve just been misguided by your primal brain --and by cultural conditioning-- to buy into a whole collection of ideas about who you and your significant other both SHOULD be in marriage. . .
This is keeping you from enjoying and loving who you both really are, and stifling the immense joy you could be experiencing in your marriage.
But who YOU BOTH ARE-- and even what you DO --is not the problem.
What's really going on here is that you just haven't been taught the simple relationship-intimacy skills that will allow you to move out of this hard place in your marriage and into the deep sustainable love that encompasses all of who you each really are as human. . .
. . . in other words, a marriage you treasure more deeply with every passing day.
You can change that starting today!
ALL IT TAKES IS:
Learning to be in loving intimate relationship first and primarily with YOURSELF, to treasure the whole of your sensitive self–with all your brilliance AND imperfections.
Deconditioning the old programming that keeps you from loving the people most dear to you (you and your honey), by learning how to put your higher “wise” brain in the driver seat and be the steward (i.e guide) of your own Mind-Body-Heart System.
Having the support, connection, and community that makes it not just possible, but inevitable for you to access the gift of your sensitivity, love with an overflowing heart, and ultimately feel treasured deeply in return by your husband…
… so your marriage becomes a source of lightness, nourishment, joy, and fulfillment.
AND YOU ARE IN THE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT PLACE FOR THAT, MY FRIEND!
"When we first started there's no way I'd have believed I'd get to this point. It just blows my mind it's so good!” ~Donna, Client
If you have even a hope that you could feel so precious, and have such a deep love between you. . . then you're being called to make that vision come to life. You wouldn't have this desire if you didn't have what it takes
to create it.
And there are many other sensitive women are being called to do the same in their marriages. We sensitive women are starting what I call a sensitive love revolution.
TRUTH IS, THERE HAS NEVER BEEN A MORE CRUCIAL TIME FOR YOU TO BRING ALIVE THE LOVE YOU WANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE..
Because you, as a highly sensitive woman, are an asset. You are a treasure. You have what human marriages–and the world in general– NEED: MORE sensitivity. More conscientiousness, more depth of connection, more love. And you are a NATURAL at all of this, and inspiring more of it in others. . .
. . . when you clear away what's blocking you from feeling yourself as the treasure that you are and letting the gift of your sensitivity come fully alive in your marriage.
Your life (and our world) will be so much better when you do.
Your children's and grandchildren's lives will be so much better, too. . .
. . .because they’ll have had the incredible example of a loving marriage, of a mother who knows her worth, who is treasured, and who doesn’t let anything keep her from loving fiercely, and deeply enjoying this life she’s chosen.
Loving marriage as a highly sensitive woman
A 6 month intimate group program to make your marriage the secure, light, connected one you want
THIS is what you will bring alive when you join
WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING:
"I can't get over how beautiful our relationship is now after these months with Hannah. It's almost surreal. It's almost like we are totally different people now. Neither of us imagined we'd ever be in this place. Our relationship is so strong and so deep now. We've come to a place where we truly GET each other. We even lovingly deal with conflict. It’s incredible.
Sam, Past Client, Canada
"When we first started there's no way I'd have believed I'd get to this point. It just blows my mind it's so good!”
Donna, Past Client, AU
"I laugh all the time these days with my partner. I couldn't have imagined it before but now every day is Joy filled.
"I'm feeling so good in my relationship, words cannot describe! I'm just filled with so much gratitude and love. I cannot think Hannah enough for the profound impact her coaching has had on my life.
I got so much more out of working with you for months than I did out of years of therapy! Things now are really, really good with my partner, better than ever. We have been showing each other so much love and tenderness, and things just feel so much easier and lighter.
I’m not as likely to get in a funky mood as before because I tend to my emotions better as they arise...I’m much more confident in myself, less prone to jealousy and have more self-love, a lot less self-judgement. I’m not as anxious about things overall.
All this and more translates to my relationship! He says the sweetest things about being so grateful to be with me and how we can even turn a bad moment around.
Lauren, Past Client
A 6 month intimate group program to make your marriage the secure, light, connected one you want as a highly sensitive woman
This is the home of the most sensitive big-hearted women who are ready to put an end to the old patterns and dynamics that aren’t working in their marriage, and to start owning the power of their sensitivity to make their marriages the true treasures they always dreamed they could be.
Treasured is for you if you’re ready to drop the old ways that haven't worked to make your marriage the loving one you want, and to learn and implement all the skills you need to transform your entire experience and culture of your marriage into one of unrestricted love, understanding, security, and ally-ship–or what I call an Amazing Human Marriage (Click here to here a podcast episode all about it).
. . . Always know how to feel secure, at ease, connected, loved, and in love in your marriage (and all realms of your life) and that deep love between you and your partner is as solid as the earth beneath your feet.
. . . Argue, withdraw, react, take things personally, and stew in resentment and hurt 85% less. Wake up and realize one morning that you haven’t had your feelings hurt in months.
. . . Feel lightheartedness with each other as the norm, and experience easy connection, frequent laughter, and smiles plentiful…
. . . Look at him across the dinner table while he’s blabbing on about this or that and being struck by the sweetest heart swelling feeling of just loving this guy and being lucky to have him.
. . . Be able to watch him do something that used to drive you nuts and think instead, “Isn’t that fascinating and even kind of cute?”, and feel totally at peace with it
. . . If your hubby is busy or distracted for a few nights in a row–or even in busy-mode for a few weeks– it won’t shake how loved you feel and how strong your connection is.
. . . Feel the daily challenges of living are faced supportively together, and the daily to dos get done with ease and collaboration.
. . . Be able to easily laugh at the sweetness and silliness of the little human conflicts between you right after they happen–and still feel so close, with a knowing that no conflict will lead to wedges between you.
. . . Not be bothered when he's having a hard grumpy day, but easily gives him space, or sense when he could use your loving attention, and feel good about giving it to him (but never take his negative feelings on as a burden to fix or some shortcoming of YOURS).
. . . Communicate 90% more effectively so you can get to understandings, resolve long-standing issues, and come out the other side feeling close and hopeful about your future together!
. . . Make love again with a sense of genuine connection and true pleasure like you haven’t felt in many years.
. . . Hear your husband tell you you’re the best thing that ever happened to him and that you keep teaching him in the most important ways (or just know he feels that way about you!)
You'll leave our time together bursting with happiness, excitement, and pride that you were able to turn this marriage around in such a big way -- so much so that you now sense you have a lot more where that came from to make your other dreams happen!
YOU'LL KNOW IN YOUR BONES THAT WHO YOU ARE IS A TOTAL ASSET, THE MOST ATTRACTIVE AND SUMPTUOUS TREASURE, TO YOUR PARTNER --AND TO THE WORLD.
AND YOU WON'T BE ALONE IN DOING IT!
WHEN YOU COMMIT TO SHOWING UP AND DOING THE WORK, BY THE TIME OUR 6 MONTHS IS DONE, YOU’LL…
The best part? You'll do all of this without becoming "less" sensitive, being more stoic, being a “better” person, or trying to get your husband to change (isn't that exhausting!?)!
Treasured isn't more of what you've already tried.
And that's why it will change everything.
Here’s the thing:
Unlike some programs that focus only on strategies (which will only get you so far), in Treasured we focus on BOTH:
The most essential strategies that are proven to revitalize and maintain lasting love.
AND the deeper foundational internal emotional work that makes it easy and natural to know just what to do and say to deepen the loving connection you want with your partner.
THE TRUTH IS, MOST OF US NEED SO MUCH MORE EMOTIONAL SOVEREIGNTY*, SO MUCH MORE CAPACITY TO GUIDE OUR OWN EMOTIONS AND TAKE LOVING RESPONSIBILITY FOR PROVIDING OURSELVES THE EXPERIENCES OF LOVE, SAFETY, LIGHTNESS AND CONNECTION THAT WE MOST WANT.
Most of us rely too much on our partner for creating that for us.
And it’s costing us our marriages.
Because truth be told –and I bet you've noticed–your man isn’t the most reliable source of all that, right!? He just isn't so good at doing that for you. But that actually isn’t a problem, because ...
YOU have so much more power over your own experience of your marriage than you’ve ever known before now.
You even deeply influence how your partner relates to you.
AND IN TREASURED YOU HARNESS THAT POWER BY LEARNING THE SKILLS OF EMOTIONAL SOVEREIGNTY .
(*When I say sovereignty I mean the capacity to be the loving ruler of your own internal domain ( i.e thoughts and emotions) and therefore how you approach your marriage… and ultimately, therefore, the culture that you create between you and your partner…)
This is in fact an essential step to the ultimate goal in a marriage of loving interdependence . . .where you’re mutually supportive and you treasure each other as you are and no longer have a trace of of putting pressure on one another to be someone you aren't or to emotionally provide anything either of you may be unable to provide . . .because you always know how to provide that emotional nourishment for yourself . . .
. . . so you can simply enjoy each other and what each of you brings to your life together.
1) DEVELOP SENSITIVE AWARENESS
So you can experience your sensitivity as an asset and start using it to make your marriage better today.
~Understand how sensitivity is actually an asset in love, and how to start tapping into it to make your marriage way better than average.
~Understand and honor your unique needs as a sensitive woman so you can be the loving and loved person you want to be.
~Discover exactly where your unhappiness and lack of fulfillment is really coming from so you can actually shift unhealthy patterns in your relationship right away
~Deepen your self-understanding, self-integrity, and begin to build an unshakable sense self-assurance and confidence—so you can feel you always have someone on your side who loves and supports you through thick and thin.
2) OWN YOUR POWER
So you can feel how much power you have to make your marriage
loving and supportive
~Become an empowered and loving advocate for yourself and your relationship, and deliberately get into action to give the two of you the best chance to thrive.
~Learn the key reasons you and your partner have been sabotaging the good thing you once had, how to stop doing it now, and begin to feel more trust, ease, respect, and tenderness between you by developing your capacity to be the steward of your own mind and nervous system.
~Cultivate acceptance and compassion toward your partner and your ability to be loving, authentic, respectful and supportive-- putting to use your great gift of tenderness and empathy, and enjoy how it enhances your partner’s ability to be loving to you.
~Create clear and healthy boundaries so you can allow the other to be as they are and make empowered decisions without damaging the relationship.
~Learn where real happiness actually comes from and how much power you have to start creating more of it right away,
3) TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FEELINGS
So you can feel calm, secure, and valued and create the conditions
for love to thrive
~Learn how to always calm or eliminate anxiety, worry, and strong reactions, so you feel deeply calm and at ease throughout the day. Because when you are feeling good, you are so enjoyable to be around (and your partner notices).
~Root out irritability, resentment, and other upsetting emotions and handle your strong feelings in the most healthy way, so you can move past conflict and upset with ease --an amazing skill for all aspects of life!
~Find healthy effective ways to get your true needs met and enhance your ability to feel safe to be seen for who you really are and receive the love you are given.
~Heal wounds around love and discover how to feel safe to let your true self be really seen, which invites your partner to feel connected to you and gives you the chance to finally feel you are loved for being 100% you.
~Take total control over how comforted, secure, loved and loving you feel in your relationship--forever.
In TREASURED, you dive into the 4 Pillars of emotional sovereignty to make your marriage an amazing one:
4) LOVE ON PURPOSE
So you can feel more love, affection, and connection and make your marriage feel sweeter than ever
~Inspire your partner to want to please you and naturally show their love to you for delicious intimacy and a life of joy together.
~Invite the magical mystery and passion back into your relationship-- and keep it that way.
~ Solidify your sense of how deep your love is and the confidence that it will last and grow ever deeper over time.
~Tap into and revitalize the love and affection you once felt for your partner (but seems to have faded in the daze of daily living) so you can feel the joy of that again.
~Communicate with self-control, respect, and finesse so you can get your needs met without manipulation and both feel on the same team.
~Replace being drained by conflict with a feeling that disagreements and discussions actually support your growth and connection.
~Feel nourished by the deep love, support, and refuge provided by your relationship so you can have way more energy to focus on things that matter to you.
All the good stuff is just flowing between me and my man thanks to coaching with Hannah. It's such a lovely feeling to be empowered to be a love leader in your relationship. It feels right emotionally and spiritually.When we women step into this we have such successful relationships. Bc What we get in return is absolute devotion. What men really want is to love and adore us!
L.H., past Client
We're having more positive lighter interactions, more enjoyable conversation even laughter! I'm feeling down much less and we're having much less conflict.
In Past Client's Words:
I'm in the best days of my life thanks to coaching with Hannah.
M.G. Past Client
Since I started working with Hannah my relationship has become more solid than it has ever been. My partner wrote me the most loving card on Valentine's Day which was BIG for him! It never would have happened before doing this program. The great changes are showing in so many ways. Not just my relationship with my partner. In my health, in my relationship with my sister and my mom…
T, Past Client, FL, USA
I am now feeling so content within myself, so peaceful, so strong. For the first time I feel whole and that feeling has informed every area of my life. Everything I need is within and I feel safe and protected –by my own self. My partner and I are doing better than ever and I feel 100% confident in our relationship and that we can get through anything together. This coaching has truly helped me change my life– truly.
S.L., Past client
"I couldn't imagine this version of myself that I have grown into by working with Hannah. She has guided me to envision who I want to be, and how to return to this deeply safe, heart centered and wisely loving self when the normal winds of life and love blow me a little off-course. I am so grateful for her guidance."
THROUGHOUT THIS PROCESS YOU’LL BE SUPPORTED BY HANNAH AND AN INTIMATE GROUP OF THE MOST SENSITIVE BIG-HEARTED WOMEN AROUND. . .
. . . all wanting the same sorts of things, and struggling with the same sorts of things, and all doing the same work side by side towards the same goals. . .
No more feeling all alone or like something's wrong with you because of your sensitivity again. With us, you belong!
Together we will be stepping into love leadership, lifting each other up, revolutionizing our marriages, families, and world forever.
TOGETHER, BONE-DEEP TRANSFORMATION IS INEVITABLE.
Your 6 Months in Treasured Includes MORE than All The Support You Need To Make Your Marriage Loving And Connected Again:
Lifetime Access to The Treasured Learning Site, containing the 4 Pillars of an Amazing Marriage. Learn and embody what really leads to loving intimacy through deep teachings (broken down into easily digestible pieces), deep-dive teaching videos, booklets to help you master sensitive communication and self coaching, and exercises to support you in transforming your marriage from the inside out. All this so you can not only understand, but also get into your bones, what works for incredible love and connection. This Learning site is so thoroughly packed with essential support for you and your marriage, it's worth the cost of the program on its own.
Your Set The Stage Kick-Start Module A whole module of videos, handouts, and exercises to get you prepared to make the very most of this program and set the stage for the most powerful shifts to happen. This way, you'll get super clear about what you are working towards and get fully committed to the incredible journey you are about to take, so you can be so successful in making the changes you want in your marriage.
22+ Group Coaching Video Calls With Hannah (virtual, so location is not an issue), where Hannah will coach you and others 1:1 to dissolve blocks, create healthy relational habits, peace-promoting perspectives, and engaged action so you can have the most fulfilling relationship imaginable. We will target and clear up the issues unique to you and your relationship, and learn from each other’s challenges and successes as well.
Recordings Of Our Sessions so you can listen to them again later for deeper insight and understanding for years to come. It's easy to forget insights you have had on our call, because we cover so much. This really helps spark your memory and anchor those insights in, for the best progress possible.
The 8-Week Better Marriage Jumpstart, Early in our time together we will dive into applying, via a specially sequenced process, the most important things to do to start seeing positive change and more loving connection in your relationship right away. When you implement these, within 8 weeks you'll be in awe of how much better things feel.
A Foundations Of Wellbeing For Sensitives Module Start off with building the best foundation possible for a thriving marriage: by deeply supporting your sensitive finely tuned nervous system with the best practices for you to stay calm, grounded, nourished, and resourced. Everything good comes downstream from here for us HSPs.
Bonus Master Classes and/or Skills Labs on key topics
You will have the chance to join classes and skills labs on essential relationship and emotional skills (topics determined by needs of the group). Learn, practice, master-and enjoy the positive impact on your marriage and life.
A Treasure Trove Of Downloadable Guided Audios And Meditations that you can come back to over and over to create lasting transformation and powerful neural-re-programming in your mind and body, so you can be your best most loving and lovable self. This is where much of the deep healing and transformation happens. The audios are richly supportive and they fill out the package so that you are doing the work on all levels of your being, for the quickest and most thorough relationship transformation.
Private Facebook Community
A deeply supportive and celebratory community to share break-throughs, challenges, and get coaching from Hannah and the group.
Possible Surprise Bonuses , depending on what comes up in our time together (such as 1:1 Emotion Sessions), Hannah's GOT you!
Access to optional add-ons:
1:1 coaching and/or coaching for your partner after or during these 6 months.
And of course, you'll have Hannah's signature love-drenched, gentle-but-direct, believe-in-you-fiercely support all along the way to call you into the woman you want to be in a marriage you love being in!
and start revolutionizing your marriage now.
We begin in September, 2022 and meet weekly for 6 months.
Reserve your spot today:
To join, please set aside 10 minutes to fill out the mutual great fit form. Hannah will get back to you within 24 hours with next steps to enroll.
Not only will joining Treasured forever benefit your own marriage and life, but it will directly transform the world for the better...
Through Hannah's partnership with Trees for the Future, 100 trees will be planted in your honor. (Why trees?)
“Before coaching with Hannah I thought I was losing my whole life because my husband was telling me he didn’t want to be with me anymore. I was very afraid of the future.
As I dove into the program, Hannah helped me see my part in the bad relationship dynamics I had with my husband: my tendency to try and control him and his behavior, my reactivity with him, how I would complain if I did not like how things were. And that pushed him away over time.
In coaching with Hannah, I learned how to take responsibility for how I feel and how to work with my emotions so that I can handle and direct them all instead of trying to direct my husband!
I can now respond calmly instead of reacting and saying things that make things worse. And we actually come up with solutions together for problems that arise.
One day he kissed me for the first time in a year. . .and not just a little kiss – but with warm fiery sparks! I felt so good and hopeful. Then we began snuggling often, and really reviving our relationship on all levels.
Because I am now able to be more loving and compassionate, he is feeling more supported by me and is telling me he wants to make this work, and is showing it through his actions.
I now see a positive future together again! I would not have developed the relationship skills I now have without Hannah’s guidance. I am grateful from the bottom of my heart for this program.”
Past Clients Stories
“Coaching with Hannah helped me find the love and acceptance I had been searching for my entire life. “
Past Client, USA
Things are going really well are my partner and I -- to the next level. We're under contract on a new home and we're talking about engagement rings!
Past Client, NH, USA
I used to always end up feeling unimportant to my husband. With Hannah’s help, I now share my feelings and communicate authentically in a loving way. I’m taking care of myself, asking for what I need, and it's inspired him to look at and take action on his own issues.
I'm now able to get across to him (in a very loving, kind way), what's important to me. AND he's surprised me with his responses that are open, humble and loving.
I now trust that he loves me, and know he wants to make it work. I’m very happy with my ‘new’ husband and love the man he is. We are laughing, loving and having FUN!!
This program is very powerful and extremely helpful to me personally and in my relationships. I highly recommend Hannah to anyone who wants to grow in LOVE."
Mara, NC, USA
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Before we started, I was struggling with feeling insecure and jealous in my relationship, and insecure in myself. I was worried that maybe we weren't meant to be together, that it would always be this way, that we'd never find a way out of struggling with conflict or deal with difficult conversations. I was feeling time pressure to make a "decision."
But after working with Hannah, I’m feeling really secure and confident, calm, steady, accepted, loving, warm-- a glowy gratitude. AND so much better about myself, In general. It's led to us reuniting in such a great way, feeling so connected and secure. And I’m not feeling needy or threatened and have less worry about the future. Things I would have gotten upset about I'm not anymore! It’s a completely different mindset!
Because of me doing this work, we're both more confident in ourselves and each other's ability to communicate honestly and openly. We've had so much growth and many important conversations lately, and we're feeling so grateful to have each other. He now asks me “How can I support you?”.
I feel so much love, support, and deep interest from him. I’ve always wanted to be able to say about a man “I feel like he’s my safe space! “ Now I can.
Lauren, Past client
Coaching with Hannah has made an enormous difference in my life. I feel so much love and I am so loved!