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  • Writer's pictureHannah Brooks

When Your Spouse Is Defensive

Updated: Sep 6, 2023

Is your significant other defensive? If so, you know how hard it can be on your communication as a couple, working through things that need to be addressed, and feeling connected. As I know from personal experience, it can really feel like a divisive wedge between you.

And if you are anything like most of the highly sensitive women I work with, you’d love for that defensiveness to just disappear–so you can communicate so much better about important things and feel like a team in life together. So let's talk about how to handle it when your partner tends towards being defensive. Because it is very possible to help curb this tendency of your partners’, make it have less impact, and even eliminate it from your marriage entirely. In this episode we look at what defensiveness is, why it happens, what might be triggering it, and lay a groundwork of understanding about it so you can be set up to prevent it from hurting your marriage. We then dive into the 7 steps you can take to help interrupt and dissolve this pattern in your spouse and relationship–and even get him on board in doing so. Even if being defensive is an old tendency of your partner’s from childhood, you still have sway over how much it shows up and interferes in your marriage's wellbeing. Listen in today to learn how, and start the flow of communication that connects instead of divides.

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