The Hidden Control Trap: Why Good Women Push Love Away

Hannah Brooks
Jun 19
2 min read

In this episode, I share a story about a conversation with a friend that led to a big desire to share this with you:

Many of us have, without even realizing it, learned to relate to our partners through control, pressure, expectations, and attempts to manage their behavior…

upset couple looking away from each other on cover of Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Podcast

And it is taking a big toll on our relationships. Because, while it tends to come from a very understandable place, it often creates the exact opposite of what we're hoping for in love.

You’ll learn:

Why control is often much more subtle than we think (and even if a first you don't think this episode is for you–it likely is)
The hidden signs that control may be showing up in your relationship
How control can look like criticism, people-pleasing, monitoring, fixing, advising, or managing
Why trying to get your partner to behave differently rarely creates genuine connection
The 2 deeper roots of control
Why insight alone isn't enough to change these patterns
And the 3 levels where lasting change actually happens

If you've ever felt frustrated or disappointed with your partner, or thought: "I just want him to be more loving, attentive, or emotionally available…or… do more," or even, "Why doesn't he get it?”, this episode, The Hidden Control Trap: Why Good Women Push Love Away, will help you see those struggles through an entirely new lens.

Because when you become a woman who can honor her needs without trying to control another person into meeting them, love stops feeling like a job or power struggle…

And starts to feel like love again.

Tune in to this as a podcast episode below or via Apple Podcasts (and I'd love for you to leave a review!), or Stitcher, PlayerFM, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, or Pandora .