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Marriage Coaching for HSP

Ever feel easily irritated or annoyed with your partner and wonder what it means about your relationship? Ever thought, “ Why is everything that my partner’s doing bothering me lately ?” or, “ Does this mean something is wrong with us ?” If so, I've been there too, and this episode is for you. In it, we explore why feeling irritated in your relationship doesn’t mean anything is wrong, how chronic stress and dysregulation fuel annoyance, how I stopped letting annoyance and ir

If you’ve been wondering why you feel distant, irritated, or “against” your partner — and how to reconnect , you’re not alone. So many sensitive women quietly struggle with this — but almost never name it out loud — even in loving marriages: it’s that moment when your husband suddenly feels like  the problem . Not just “we’re having an issue,” but something deeper in your body: You feel against him. Closed. Tight. Like you’re no longer on the same side.   And I want you to he

If you’ve ever read a marriage book, heard some relationship advice that seemed logical, or sat in a therapy session and thought, "Why is this so much harder for me than it seems to be for everyone else?" —there is a biological reason for that. Today we dive into what that is, and why a lot of traditional marriage advice just doesn't work for us as highly sensitive people.  The truth is, most marriage advice does not take into account the HSP reality – our highly sensitive ne

Developing your sensitivity, instead of overcoming it, may be one of the best things you can do for your marriage. We HSPs often think of ourselves as “too sensitive”, but actually, our sensitivity is the very thing that can make our marriages richer and better than any others on earth! I often talk about how ”working with” your sensitivity is key to your happiness in love– and your whole life, and it is true there are many ways we can learn to do that to thrive. And, we can

203  "That couple is just so in love…so much more than we are!" "How come we can’t communicate like that?"  "What's wrong with our relationship that my husband doesn't look at me like that?" Ever sounded like that in your head? Ever compared your relationship, or your spouse, to other couples or spouses…and then felt even more unhappy about your relationship? Clients ask me about this often.  It's so common that there is a term for it: Compare and despair. Today, we are call

You may have heard me throw around the term "Emotional Agency", and how it's absolutely the over-looked, and often neglected, ticket to having the healthiest, most loving, most vibrant and fulfilling marriage as a highly sensitive person (or just as a human being in this modern world) -- even when your spouse isn't the most emotional skilled person. But what exactly IS emotional agency, and why is it so important, and, most importantly, how can you develop this ticket to gre

There are just a few more days until we dive into Free Your Heart For More Love: Getting Past Blame, Resentment, And Grievance . So it's   time to register!  If you’ve ever felt annoyed, mad or resentful in your relationships, or you know you will someday (attention  everyone  reading this!), you don't want to miss this! Check it out here.   If you are harboring resentment or anger towards your partner, please be willing to admit it to yourself (because it is doing NO one in

Resentment, grievance, and blame: these are not easy things to move past in our intimate relationships, especially, when it feels like your partner has piled on many little – or big – hurts, transgressions, and wrongdoings over the course of your relationship. Resent and blame come very naturally to us as humans, so if you feel them, you are oh-so-normal. AND, they are keeping you locked out of your heart. THey are keeping you from the love you could otherwise be feeling, and

MOST people take things personally to some degree. And it hurts. But, taking things personally may not  feel like simple  hurt feelings....

You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. Even if you can’t see it now, even if it feels like your partner is the main shaper of...

If you’re like so many women I talk to, you’re tired of how difficult communication can be with your significant other:   → Maybe simple...

There are three major things I learned from my first marriage ending in divorce that have allowed me to create an amazing fulfilling...

When things are feeling less connected, loving and supportive in your relationship than you want them to as a highly sensitive person,...

Ever felt that stinging (or punch-in-the-gut) feeling when your partner says or does something hurtful? Or maybe it’s something he doesn't...

We have a TON of sway over how we feel on a daily, hourly, and even minute by minute basis–as well as on our ability to connect in the...

YOU, as a sensitive being, have a beautiful, innate, huge capacity to connect deeply, tenderly, open-heartedly, and in an...

If there was one thing I could shout out from the rooftops right now to help all intimate relationships –and really all of humankind and...

One of things many of my clients feel the deepest despair about is that they feel stuck rehashing the same old painful reactive patterns...

Maybe your partner could be more skillful in his interactions with you, but there's things you can do to feel better too. Here's how.

Still feel your partner doesn't understand you? I made this episode to change that: it’s for your partner (or both of you) to listen to.