Why Traditional Marriage Advice Often Fails Highly Sensitive People

If you’ve ever read a marriage book, heard some relationship advice that seemed logical, or sat in a therapy session and thought, "Why is this so much harder for me than it seems to be for everyone else?"—there is a biological reason for that.

Today we dive into what that is, and why a lot of traditional marriage advice just doesn't work for us as highly sensitive people. 

The truth is, most marriage advice does not take into account the HSP reality – our highly sensitive nervous systems and brains. So of course it’s going to flop for us if we are not first respecting and honoring our physiological differences and needs.

To expect traditional marriage advice to work for us is like expecting an orchid to bloom in a desert. It’s not going to happen. 

So listen in to hear the top 5 popular pieces of advice that fail us sensitives, and what actually works instead – all illustrated with HSP-resonant nature analogies (sometimes some good old garden metaphors can really clear things up!)

By the end of this episode, you’re going to understand why, to thrive in your relationship, you don’t need to try harder at traditional marriage advice’s top down approach – like communicating with specific phrases– and that nourishing your sensitive system at the root level is what will make the biggest difference–and make the rest come quite naturally.

 What does that mean? Tune in to Why Traditional Marriage Advice Often Fails Highly Sensitive People to find out -- and subscribe via Apple Podcasts (and I'd love for you to leave a review!), or Stitcher, PlayerFM, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, or Pandora--or below. 

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SHOW NOTES:

Learn all about and join Hannah in Foundations of Emotional Well-Being For HSPs; The Root Of a Safer Marriage and Heart here. Doors close Feb 4th, 2026. After that, price goes up forever. 

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