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  • Writer's pictureHannah Brooks

Being His Lover, Not His Mother

Updated: Oct 26, 2022

In this fundamental episode (the 1st in a 3-part series), we dive into an essential-to-look-at issue—one most sensitive women will need to face and learn to work with if we want to feel more like our husband’s “lover” (someone for him to love and cherish and someone for him to feel loved and cherished by) rather than, well, his “mother”.

With a whole lot of compassion and honest sharing of my personal journey with it, I address and help you solve this very common challenge:

Our own urge to control what we cannot control: another adult.

So many of us women fall into this habit unintentionally—and for well-intentioned reasons. But, it always backfires and makes marriage a burdensome, duty-bound, sparkless experience that wanes in mutual respect and enjoyment every day.

And the ironic thing is that our efforts to control our partner actually make us LESS capable of bringing ourselves the loving experiences we want with him.

If you think you don’t have any issue with this, I invite you to listen in to find out for sure. Because, the kind of control I’m talking about shows up in subtle ways, and is completely pervasive in modern marriages--and it slowly kills the love and romance in them.

Learn how to not let it do so, and how you can actually start truly influencing your marriage in a more loving direction, in this episode.

Listen in to learn:

  • the two general categories in which control commonly manifests

  • the signs to look out for that indicate your veering towards control

  • the effect it has on you, your partner, and your marriage

  • How to begin moving out of controlly and “mother” energy and into more “lover” energy

So you and your husband can have a marriage that you both love.

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