SOS For Communication Problems

If you’re like so many women I talk to, you’re tired of how difficult communication can be with your significant other:

→ Maybe simple communications with your spouse spiral into irritated interactions or big conflicts…or you get locked into testy back-and-forths at the drop of a hat.🙄

→ Maybe there are certain ways your partner communicates that quickly fills you with strong difficult emotions…😠

→ Maybe, during conversations, you or your partner fall into defensiveness or get sidetracked by trying to prove some irrelevant point that has nothing to do with what the original subject matter was…😬

→ Maybe you have lots of miscommunications, or it simply feels hard to get through to each other…😒

If any of these are happening for you and your partner, you may think you and your spouse need better communication skills. 

But the truth is, that’s not actually the first step. 

What you really need are emotional regulation skills! THAT is the REAL SOS for communication problems.

Because easy, effortless, and effective communication (going in both directions) only EVER comes out of calm responsiveness. 

And calm responsiveness – instead of irritable reactiveness – comes downstream of emotional regulation.

Put more simply: good communication only happens from an emotionally regulated state.

You’ll never communicate well — even with the best communication skills — if you don’t first drop into an emotionally regulated place before and while you communicate.

About 99.99% of all irritable interactions, all conflicts, all arguments, come from emotional dysregulation in one or both partners.

 You have no chance of communicating in ways that connect, deepens intimacy, and resolves long standing issues, unless you know how to regulate your emotions. 

So you have to start with emotional regulation. 

Join me in Foundations Of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs to establish a strong ability to regulate your emotions, so that the rest of the skills needed for a strong, healthy,  connected, lasting relationship come easily! 

(Cool extra important fact? If only ONE of you shows up emotionally regulated in an interaction, it will seriously help the other one, via "co-regulation" ( the ability to transfer an emotionally regulated state to other people.) So do this work, and watch it 10x both you and your spouse’s ability to communicate with each other!)

Doors close June 22nd, 2025 for this round. LEARN MORE AND JOIN HERE.