Frequently Asked Questions About TREASURED: Loving Marriage As A Sensitive Woman
Updated: Sep 5, 2022
Below are answers to the most commonly asked questions about my small group program Treasured. You can also find a whole podcast that answers other questions and give you feel of the program and if its right for you! Listen in here.
What is Treasured?
When will the calls be held?
To be determined . . . But do keep in mind that all calls will be recorded (see next question below). Most likely the regular weekly coaching calls will be Fridays in the middle of the day sometime between 12-3 Eastern Time (GMT-5), so most people will be able to take lunch break to be on the call. There will be some skills lab calls as well, some during that same time, others possibly at other times, depending what works for the group. More info soon, and if this is make or break to you, email firstname.lastname@example.org
What if I can’t be at some of the calls?
You will get access to ALL CALL recordings, so you can watch or re-watch them! Always great for integration and deeper learning. But if you know you can’t be there for many calls, I suggest you rework your schedule to prioritize this if you are committed to changing things!
What if I'm not married?
If you’re a sensitive woman in a committed relationship, whether married or not, this program is made for you.
Who is this for (gender / sexuality)?
This program is for women (cis women). You can be partnered with anyone, but Hannah speaks to specific issues around heterosexual couples and loves teaching women how to relate to and understand men (cis men), and she frequently uses traditional he/she pronouns when she teaches, so as long as you are comfortable with that, you’re more than welcome here if your partner is not a cis male).
What if I've been through trauma?
Hannah coaches in a trauma-informed way. Although coaching is not intended to heal trauma, you will learn tools to help support you in your healing journey. The truth is, pretty much all of us have trauma. Depending on the nature and severity of your trauma–if it is recent, “Big” trauma, or really “red hot” for you at this time, I would recommend having worked with a therapist or trauma specialist first as a best first step. But if it’s “little t” trauma, and/or you’ve done some healing work on it already, this is a great program for you to move you forward. We can certainly grow WITH our trauma, but not if it’s very consuming. Listen to this podcast episode for more: Tending Your Trauma
Even though this sounds amazing, I'm hesitating because what if I’m the one person with the one marriage this doesn't “work” for?
If you come with an open mind and commitment to your goals for yourself and your marriage, there is no way you won't get big results. I’ve never seen anyone who showed up to our calls and spent some time in the learning site not succeed! Often it happens way faster and more easily than they could've imaged, too!
As many clients have said in their own words, my client Donna said 1 month into our time: "Though I was unsure if I could improve things in my marriage before taking the leap to coach with Hannah, the loving email I received from my husband yesterday--which took my breath away and made my heart skip a beat all at once-- was more than enough proof that the work I am doing on myself and our relationship in this program IS working--after only a month working with Hannah. "
And by then end of our time together she reported: "When we first started there's no way I'd have believed I'd get to this point. It just blows my mind it's so good!"
But I get it…I honestly used to have the same worries when it came to coaching programs. Time and again, my doubts about myself and my ability to reach my goals were proved wrong. My clients report the same! Because coaching works.
It’s totally normal to doubt, but if you let that doubt decide for you, guess what will happen? You’re guaranteed to NOT reach your goal. Because you aren’t even trying. We never create what we want from self-doubt and fear.
Instead, ask yourself, what if this DOES work for me? What if I'm so much more powerful than I'm giving myself credit for? And decide from there. If you’re really worried about this, please read this blog post Does Coaching Ever NOT work? And re-read the client stories in gold.
Lastly, listen to these 2 podcast episodes: Navigating Conflict And Upset For More Love; Lauren's Story and Jade’s Story: From Despair To Laughing And Loving)
I'm really interested in doing this, but we don’t have an extra 3k set aside for this. Help?
Yes, I have been there many times! Here’s what I've learned:
We keep money for retirement and vacation and future things we may want or need – because we think that will create our happiness and security. But if we are miserable, if we are in pain, if our marriage is falling apart –IS that security and happiness? No.
True happiness and security come from deep well-being inside of ourselves and our connections to the people who matter most to us.…When we create that inside ourselves and our marriages, everything good comes from there, including MORE financial well-being down the road. Check this podcast episode out for more, because it’s just so important to make an informed decision that truly supports your wellbeing, security and wealth of both the tangible and intangible kinds!
Whenever I am making a decision about investing in some coaching that costs more than I have or have budgeted for, I think about what it will cost me NOT to do it. Usually that's actually MORE than what it costs to do it! Meaning it’s A FINANCIAL LOSS NOT TO DO IT!
This is especially true when it comes to our marriages. Did you know that the average cost of a divorce in the USA is 15-20K –not including any asset losses or any of the living costs after, like having two separate households (and let’s not underestimate the lifelong expenses–we could say it's about 2x as expensive as living in one household).
And that’s not even thinking about the real emotional, mental, energetic, and HEALTH costs of either divorce or staying in an unhappy marriage! (Studies show that a happy marriage adds 4-8 years to your life and reduces risk of all those big scary diseases we all want to avoid!)
Your marriage and your emotional well-being are 2 of the most precious assets in your entire life. Protecting them will give back for the rest of your life--in ways you may not even be able to imagine right now.
In other words, the 3k is a bargain for everything it gets you.
Once you see that, it’s a no-brainer to simply set your mind to figuring out how to come up with the 3k. You are more resourceful than you know.
My past clients and I have solved for this ourselves with creativity (and been so surprised by how much easier it was than we thought). Some ways we came up with: gotten a zero% credit card with 15 months to pay it back, traded the bigger vacation we had planned for a smaller one, gotten a small part time job, borrowed from family, taken from retirement, sold a piece of furniture or something else of value, waited six more months for that car upgrade, cut back on other things we’re spending $ on to feel better bc we’re so unhappy (like alcohol and Netflix!).
You are super resourceful, and I know you can figure it out. Just think about how grateful your future self will be!
Lastly, maybe the payment plan would be a good option for you. It's only available if you enroll by September 1st, though! Learn more by filling out the Great Mutual Fit form.
What if I have more questions or am still unsure if it’s the right fit for me?
You can always email a pressing question to email@example.com. If you are interested in Treasured, but have a few questions or want to feel it out more, I recommend you first fill out the Great Mutual Fit form here, as it will help you get more clear and help Hannah discern if she thinks it might be right for you. From there we will make time for a conversation to answer any questions you may have and help you make the best decision for you!
Why is Treasured 6 months and not just a couple?
To create lasting change can take time. Some of this work is actually a re-wiring of your brain and a changing of habits--and learning a new dance, so to speak. All of which simply takes time, repetition and trouble-shooting.
Shorter programs actually do you a disservice by not honoring what sustained change really entails--potentially leaving you worse off than before ( because your left believing somethings wrong with you or your marriage!).
In Treasured we give you the time your sensitive mind-body-heart system needs to HOLD the changes forever--and even get you to the place where they begin to escalate for the rest of your life.
Oh yeah, we also make sure YOU have the tools you need to continue to coach yourself for the rest of your life, so you aren't dependent on Hannah or a coach to improve things forever. Six months is short for all that.
Why a group program? Will I be helped as much as I would be in 1:1?
A group coaching program has different benefits than 1:1 coaching, and you will be helped and transformed in ways that are not possible in a 1:1 container.
One of the biggest? Science has proven what we already knew in our hearts: we actually HEAL in relationship with others. We are wired for connection--especially as sensitive women.
All too often in our modern world, we do not have like-minded and like-hearted people who really GET us, and who are specifically in our lives to support us with our growth and healing.
As AOC recently said, "Many of our biggest problems are a result of our massively scaled up isolation form others--that means that many solutions can be found in creating community."
It's time to no longer feel isolated or be on your own in your pain and desires. In Treasured, you get an instant community of amazing women who GET you fully, who have felt alone and different until they had a circle of other women like you, where they belong!
My clients report that learning that they are normal, and seeing it reflected to them by me and others in this sphere of HS women is, in and of itself, not just "big-sigh-bone-deep-relieving", but life affirming and totally transformative.
When you spend time in a group of HS women, hearing their stories and sharing yours as we do in this group, you see that there are so many others just like you–women who are struggling with the same things in their lives and marriages, who want the same things, who’ve experienced so much of the same things– the sense of “something is wrong with me” goes away…
. . . and in its place comes such acceptance and, beyond that, love of who you are. (Which hugely impacts your marriage, as you will see!)
Because of course you can see it in others: you can see their dearness and beautiful humanness, and you can love it so easily.
There’s nothing more powerful than a group of others to heal your relationship with yourself, and to open your eyes to what a gift you are--so you can be more treasured than ever for it!
In this group, not only will you get 1:1 coaching when you raise your hand in the calls or participate in the skills labs, you'll also watch others being coached on issues that you didn't even realize were holding you back or impacting your marriage - which will have you growing so much faster!
In community you are more powerful than on your own.
Together we will be stepping into love leadership, lifting each other up, and having FUN while creating a sensitive love revolution in our marriages, families, and world.
Here's what other women have said about past group programs I've been a part of:
Sharing this experience with others was so supportive! Hearing others share their journey was helpful especially when someone else would share something that connected for me too. It was comforting to know you aren't the only one to have some of these experiences.
When the other women would share things that were difficult for them it would spark an aha moment for me, and I loved that.
It was so interesting for me to see that there are so many other women out there with similar types of thoughts in their brain as I have in mine. It helped to normalize what I’ve experienced and also to see that just because this is what I’ve struggled with up until now, doesn’t mean that I will always struggle with it.
It was incredible. The group was so much better for me than 1 to 1 coaching b/c other women have the same problems as me it turns out, which was such a relief. And I learned so much about myself by seeing the other women be coached.
I loved learning that I was not the only one. That alone shifted me from the feeling of “being broke” to a feeling of wholeness.
Ready To Enroll? Fill out the Great Mutual fit form here! It should take about 10 minutes.I cannot wait to support you and celebrate with you as your marriage transform into one you feel so good in, so supported by, and so treasured in!